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Loving Your Siblings

I’ve talked about being a product of 3 and how having a brother and sister had its ups and downs I love them both more than anything and I’m thankful to have them both in my life.  My sister and I didn’t have a great relationship growing up, or at least that’s how I remember it, because I was so bossy and she was a tattle tale (it's the truth, no sugar coating here).  We still have our moments where we don’t agree, but we’re family and we always work through it.  Sometimes it’s just hard to process the real hard truth, period.  We have both been in situations where we’ve had to just lay it out there and while it’s hard to hear, we process it and adjust.  Maybe not 100% but at least it was said and we heard it… And sometimes a sister or family member is the only one who can really put it out there.  Anyway, my siblings are both a big part of my life and I wouldn’t want to know what life would be like without either of them.

When Sean and I talked about starting a family, we weren’t really sure about how many kids we wanted, we just knew that we would love more than one and whatever else would be really awesome.  I’ve always envisioned a family of 5, maybe because that’s all know from growing up or maybe because I want my kids to experience what I was able to when I was younger and so far, we’re on our way there.

But when I think about all of this, I start to think about the relationship that our kids will have with one another and I will

Emerson started walking at 9.5 months and at that point, I believe that’s when Coen and her really started to form a friendship.  She didn’t want to let him do more than her and she wanted to have every bit of fun that he was having, hence the walking at 9.5 months…

But in all honesty, I really do believe they love one another.





We’ve started to talk about mommy and Emie being beautiful and daddy and Coen being handsome.  We try to ask about other family members to see what he’ll say and if he’ll make the connection between men and women/boys and girls.  It’s very cute to then hear him tell Emie later (without and prompts) that she’s beautiful. I know kids are sponges and they literally hear everything that we say to them or around them (even when they are pretending to not listen) and it can be very eye opening when they repeat something that you had no idea that they even knew, but these moments, when Coen repeats something so sweet… That’s just the icing on the cake.




We want our kids to be the best of friends and maybe not always, but for the long haul, we’d love them to recognize that family is the most important thing and that you have to keep them close and love them more than anyone else.  A brother/sister relationship is a special relationship but not more special than a sister/sister relationship.  You lean on one another for everything, even if it is just a sip of milk from their sippy. 

Watching Emie and Coen become friends and watching them learn to lean on one another has been a pretty incredible thing to see unfold.  And, the best part?  It’s just the beginning.

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