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Tantrums

Coen is learning how to express himself through a variety of emotions.  Lately, when we try to correct him, tell him no or move him from something that we don't want him to touch or play with, he throws a tantrum.  In our house, we ignore them.  For the most part.  They usually result in him throwing his body on the floor and flopping around.  Sometimes there is crying involved and other times it's just whining and looking back to see how you're reacting to him reacting.

We choose not to react because we know that it might only increase the tantrum or the frequency because he knows that he'll get a reaction that benefits him.

Now, this doesn't stop us from correcting him.  We still correct him, even if we know it's going to induce a tantrum, we just let him work out his tantrum and then move on.  Tantrums will pass.  But for now, they aren't fun.  Especially in public.  We're working through it and know that with a little bit more time, they won't be an issue.

I cross my fingers that I don't end up being that mom with a screaming child in the grocery, but you just never know.  Time will tell.

We know that this is just a phase and it's not in reaction to his sister being here.  A lot of people believe there are all these qualms around introducing another child into your family.  I'm sure there are a few, but the things that we are working on with Coen are more about what age he is verses him reacting to Emie arriving.  He still really doesn't even know that she's here.  She doesn't interfere with his time with us.  She really doesn't.  So therefore, Coen doesn't know any different.

And don't get me wrong... tantrums aside, he's a great kid and still learning things SO fast.  Even if he's learning that we could react to his tantrum, given the right opportunity.  BUT we are looking forward to him catching on that we aren't going to make a fuss. Little booger.

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Oh tantrums. UGH.

I asked Henry's doctor about them at his 12 month appointment and he said the are totally normal and actually a sign that they are developing correctly....but of course no fun.

Henry will start to cry but then throw stuff. I hate that he does that. He will pick up toys and just throw them and look at us. We try the same thing, ignoring or not over-reacting but still disciplining him. It is hard some times.

He has also started hitting me. It could be I say no and he hits or even if I try to get a kiss from him and he doesn't want too he hits. And then as soon as he does he lays his head on my chest as "I'm sorry". But it almost seems to be a game now.

Grocery stores have become "more fun" as he thinks he should be able to touch EVERYTHING and put it in the cart and gets fussy if we don't let him.

But like your sweet boy, Henry most of the time is such a sweetheart...just testing boundaries and stuff.

This is such a weird age, I am gathering. They can't say how they feel, they are learning to express themselves but don't always know how. I guess we just stick with it and wait for it to stop!!

Good luck :)

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