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In all of this talk about our kids, I wanted to shed light on our relationship.

We are a team.  We've been a team from day one.

We love each other.  More so now, with our kids in our lives, than we ever have in all the years that we've been together.

We are good friends and he's my support person, 100%.  But, I'm going to be honest and say that our conversations have been less in person and more by email or text, lately. Not because we can't say something to one another's face but because we just don't have much time to really chit chat.  Plus, while I was on maternity leave, I'd have a lot of trouble not having adult conversations during the day that I was starting to DROWN him in babble when he would come home and that wasn't helping him to unwind... so we just spare ourselves a bit with some silence at night, once the kids are calm/asleep.  Which is good for both of us... and it's just a phase as we figure out our new family dynamic and a balance between being parents and being a couple.

With me being back to work, I still communicate with him as though I'm at home.  We text during the day and we email off and on. It's really not too bad, because while we still have small conversations at home, we talk about some good things through email/text and it's always nice to re-read conversations that have been written like that especially when I always seem to forget something... daily.


But, with all of that said, the bottom line is... there are days that go by that make me really miss my relationship with my husband.

We love each other, no matter what and we are in this for the long haul.  But, there have been a few days lately where I've realized how much I miss him.  There were a couple of things on our horizon that I told him I just didn't want to do because I just wanted to be home and together, as a family.  I like having him around, not only to help me with the kids, but just to be around. To be close and to potentially cuddle with on the couch.  It's just good to be near him.  It makes me feel good and happy.

A friend told me once... that sometimes the greatest conversations are had when you can sit in a room, in silence and completely understand what's going on with that person, without saying anything at all.  This is happening between my husband and I lately... but sometimes the silence kills me.

Comments

Erin said…
You are not alone; I have totally felt this way with my husband before too. It's one of those phases (unfortunately). While the silence is good at time, sometimes it's nice to have more. Hope this phase passes quickly for ya :)
Allison said…
I've definitely been there, especially recently with the addition of #2. The change to 2 kids is hard in that respect.
M said…
sometimes bob likes silence... and love to talk... I am learning to accept this.
Also, we are always available to help out if you two just need a couple hours out together- kid free!!

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