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Birth Control

Throughout our journey to start and have a family, we never talked about birth control.  We weren't trying to prevent a birth, we wanted a birth more than anything. 

We were lucky to be blessed with our first pregnancy in 2010, that sadly left us broken and confused only 8 weeks and 3 days later.  Soon after that, we were expecting Coen in mid 2011.  When we welcomed him into the world, we were overjoyed and so in love with him.   We knew we were not going to be preventing another birth because we feared that we would have to face infertility again.  So, we didn't.

Five months later, we found out that we were going to be welcoming another child into our lives and while we were in shock, we were ecstatic!  We never once thought that having two pregnancy back to back was a bad thing or that we wish we would've done it differently.  Maybe we say those things aloud to others to joke about it, but we wouldn't have it any other way.

We didn't have a mistake child.  We didn't have a mistake pregnancy.  We have two children that we are so in love with that nothing about it is a mistake. Nothing.

Having children 14 months apart really brings out the good and the ugly in people and how they react. It's been very interesting to watch and hear those comments or reactions.  I'm surprised to tell you that most people are actually very positive and while they may not have had children this close together, they might know someone else that has and guess what?!?  They survived.

Multiple children, no matter the age range, bring on their own list of challenges.  Our list, is pretty much non-existent. We are so happy to have two children who are healthy and happy that we can't even think about the unknown or the "just you wait" moments.

I know that people talk about how insane we are to have kids this close together and what about college or cars or car insurance or money or schedules or whatever else they want to ask about... We are a family.  We have plans for the future and we have ideas for new plans for the future too.  We have money and while we are going to making it by stretching it a little thin, we are going to make it.

I would never tell people to never do what we did.  I would do it, if you wanted or if that was what you were handed.  It's actually been really nice having them close together so far because they are both pretty easy going, good eaters and get along with everyone, easily.  I would never say anything negative about our life or tell someone to never have children this close together.

Now, with all of that said.  We have decided that, for now, I'm going to be taking birth control.  I'm on the depo shot and so far, it's been great.  I haven't had any side effects and for the future, it will help us line things up for when our next arrival will come.  We aren't done having kids and just because we didn't plan for them to be this close, doesn't mean that we aren't in love with how it's worked out.  Our children are our world and we love them more than anything.

As for the next addition, we plan to start talking about their arrival in the next 2 years or so.  We had always said that since I really enjoyed being a product of 3 that we would shoot for 3.  Now, that doesn't mean that we've also talked about shoot for 4 either.  We have 4 nieces and nephews and while there is a set on twins in there, there are still 4 kids and the dynamics of their family and all the relationships, is just so fun to watch.  We still talk about 3 a lot more than 4, but nothing is set in stone. Either way, we know more children are in our future and that makes me all giddy inside!

Comments

Jessica said…
First of all - I am in awe that you can write such an eloquent, well-thought-out post with two babies in hand! My brain is still mush and I just have the one, a month younger than Coen.

I would love to have two close together but so far baby #2 has not appeared. Sure, the next few years will be hard for you guys but two kids will always be tough. Coen and Emerson will be so close and that's a wonderful thing :)
Molly said…
Well, I'm happy for you! Although I knew it would be stressful at times for you I also know the joy of having two babies close together. Mind you, not as close as you :)

My little sister and I are 13 months apart and I think it's so fun to have an irish twin!

Just do what is right for your family, hon. You are right. They are not mistake babies. I always call Brigham my unexpected angel. He truly is.

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