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STTN | Sleeping Through The Night

This was another topic that we covered at his 12 month well-visit.  It's something that we've struggled with for months and I'm ashamed to say that it's mainly my fault.  I hear him cry, I walk upstairs and listen to him stir.  If he goes back to sleep or finds his thumb and stops crying, I just go back to bed.  If I can hear him stirring and not taking his thumb, I usually go into his nursery to pick him up.  Maybe not the best option, but it's what I've done.  If he stirs and stirs with me, I would try to nurse him and if that didn't work we would do a bottle.

When talking to his doctor, he said that he's probably habitually getting up because that's the pattern that I've created.  He's probably not starving, but just in that routine of getting up with me, so he still does it.  He said that at his age, he should be sleeping through the night without waking and sleeping somewhere between 10 and 12 hours at night.  Sounds dreamy, but I wasn't sure how this transition was going to work.

Monday night, we gave it a go and I said that if he woke up that I'd have to get S. up to deal with it because he's so used to me greeting him at that hour that he would want the bottle or nurse.  The dr. agreed that it was better for Dad and not Mom to be involved.  So we went to bed as normal and had a game plan for when this was going to happen.

We heard cries, I nudged S. and he rolled over and said, "It's 5:45am... you get him."  So I did.  Because that's basically the time that he would get up normally.  So, sleeping through the night worked... without any crying or bottles or anything.

Tuesday night, we put him down like normal (at 8:30pm) and at 10pm he wakes up in pain from his teeth.  Crying like a maniac and just miserable.  So we both were up there trying to calm him and I ended up rocking him to sleep and putting him back down.  About 3am, we hear cries.  I went to the bathroom, got some water and just listened for how it was all going to play out.  After about 15 minutes, he was groaning and was on his way back to sleep.  We didn't have to go up at all.  He was still waking up, but we weren't trying to help him in any way, which is what the dr. said to do.  He said that we should let him cry it out for about 10-15 minutes before going into his room.

Wednesday night was a mess and I did end up caving on the co-sleeping and bottle offering after an hour of being up at 4am.

 The morning after I caved on co-sleeping.  This is how he was sleeping when I woke up... so sweet.

Thursday night was better, but I noticed the monitor being off at about 3am, to which I turned it on and immediately heard him yell out.  But that was it.  He was fine, otherwise.

We are beyond hopeful that this pattern of nursing/co-sleeping/bottle that I've created will just slowly fade away.  It's been a lot of months to just stop it, but that's what we have to do to transition everyone into the sleeping through the night thought process.  Plus, once we have our baby girl join us, we will be up anyway and while that would be a total mess and completely still doable... I wouldn't want it to be the routine.

I'm looking forward to sleep.  When we got 9 hours straight of sleep, the other night, I felt like a new person.  It'll be amazing for a bit and then we'll be back to a newborn schedule, but at least I'll be getting some sleep in before that all happens. I'm hoping that we can creep up to that 12 hours at night, mark.  But I won't cross my fingers on that one.

Either way, sleeping through the night might really become a reality soon and I'm happy about that!

Comments

Katie said…
Sounds like you've got a plan, and that's half the battle! The other half of sticking to it, well, that can be tricky ;) As a tired Mama you do what you have to do in order to get some rest....offering breast or bottle, co-sleeping...it happens, habits form, and then you realize you need/want to undo what's been done. Sort of, at least, if that makes sense.

Sending you lots of sleepy vibes that the little man will get into a new routine. It's tough.

We are still dealing with usually one night waking where I go in and nurse her. Is she starving? Probably not, but she sure sucks it down like she is. And I know she'll fall immediately back to sleep to complete a 12 hour sleep cycle.

I keep hoping it'll phase out on it's own, but so far, no luck yet. Good luck!
Sassytimes said…
Oh man, sleep. How I miss it. Maybe we can put C and V in a room together and they can comfort each other so we can sleep. ;)

He's so cute sleeping like that though. We'll miss it once they don't 'need' us any more.

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