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Begin rant (my personal opinion):

Women who are having their first child get a baby shower, typically hosted by her friends/family.

Women who are having their 2nd (3rd, 4th, 5th, etc...) child, even it is after 5 or 10 years, don't get to have another shower.

If your friends want to host a "sprinkle party" for you, to gift you items that you might need because you're having the other gender this time around or because it has been 5 to 10 years since you had a baby, that's fine.  Don't expect it though.

End rant. Again, my personal opinion.

Comments

Alyson said…
You read my mind. Went through this recently with someone. It was so weird!! She had a second shower and even registered for it. She ended up registering for some stuff for child #1 and child #2. Different genders so that's how you could tell on the registry. My SIL did this too. Same gender. Donated most of her child #1 stuff while she was pregnant since she wanted new stuff for child #2. I thought that was so selfish. There was so much new stuff. Some clothes weren't even worn. Made me so mad!
Sarah said…
I'm with you for the most part - I do think there are exceptions (like baby #2 has a different father - his family should get to shower the baby if they want).

This is part of the reason no one knew the gender of my baby until she was born. I wanted neutral stuff - so that I could use it again!
I dunno...I don't actually have a huge problem with it. (This is suprising because I am the Queen of Etiquette and Rules That Must Be Followed). That said, if you want to have a shower (for your 1st or 5th kid), I will NEVER feel obligated to go and I will never feel the need to buy a gift just because you invited me. Showers (wedding and baby alike) should be for the CLOSE friends and family...and if you are a close friend, I was probably gonna get you a gift anyway. But if you are my hairdresser, probably not!
Jill Marie said…
Whoooo in the world came up with this idea anyway... I have three and never thought.. hmmm I should have another shower because it's a boy this time around. PAAAALLEEEASSE.

End to my rant also ;)
molly said…
I was pretty adamant about not having a big shower for baby #2. For one thing, I had just had three huge showers less than two years before and we really had everything we needed. It felt yucky and greedy to me.

I did have a surprise sprinkle for baby boy #2. Just my closest family and friends out for a spa day. It was perfect and no one got stressed out!

My mom was all, "Molly, this baby is special too and he deserves to be showered just like Landon was!"

Good point, mom. Good point :)
Leah said…
I completely agree. We plan on having a get together after Baby Love arrives that we will be hosting.

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