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Sprout's Route | Week 9





[written 11.3.10 - 9 weeks, 5 days]

How am I feeling?

Peeing has slowed down a bit and I don't know if that's because I'm not getting enough liquids (which I know isn't the case) or my body is just getting use to the fact that I'm retaining and trying to flush more fluids than normal.  Either way, I'm a little glad it's not a frequent as it was.  My chest a little more sore than the past weeks and my stomach is starting to feel more and more bloated.  As of right now, we have about 2.5 weeks until we start to tell people.  At that point we'll be 12.5 weeks or something like that.  We're anxious to start saying something and the last couple of weekends with social events going on has been a little trying, but we're doing just fine.  I'm sure there are some people onto us now, but oh well...

We did have friends announce at our house about their pregnancy last week and it turns out that they are about 4 weeks behind us.  Yes, that makes them on 5 weeks... but they were excited.  I know that when we started telling people the first time around, we were about 6.5 weeks.  It was early and we know now, only because we jumped the gun, that we would never announce that early.  I also have to remind people that we were 9 weeks and 4 days when we found out about our loss.  So we were pretty far along.  But we know now that things are (already) much this time around and we're very happy about that.

Weight:

From my last appointment to my appointment last week to now today... I'm actually down from my original starting pregnancy weight.  I mean, I know that there is fluctuation and I know that you don't always gain in the first few weeks anyway, but I'm down.  I have to admit that it has nothing to do with going to the gym.  I honestly have been lucky to get 2 to 3 days in over the last few weeks.  I'm hopeful that it will start to change, but I have to be honest.  I'm losing my breath a lot quicker lately and just going up three flights of stairs to get to the cardio theatre, just about does me in.  I'm sort of exaggerating, but you get the idea.

Dreams:

I dream anyway... usually and I have been known to do some crazy things in my sleep as well.  Well this week, I was back at it again.  I apparently "woke up" and shook the crap out of my husband by his arm for a few minutes and then I was done.  He said that is wasn't funny because it scared the crap out of him.  Meanwhile, when he's repeating the story to me the next morning, I'm in tears because I'm laughing so hard.  I know there is a happy medium there, but seriously, doing things in your sleep is funny!  Come on!

And clearly, my idea of having twins was shot down by the ultrasound tech a few weeks ago now; and yes, that does mean that those double dreams have stopped too.  I'm happy about that because the last thing I would want is a hiding sibling, but there wasn't anything of the sort.

Food:

I'm still having food issues.  Things sound good and then when I eat them, they are nasty.  I also have an issue with anything that has much flavor.  I'm really digging bland things and food that isn't really crazy.  Now that doesn't mean that I'm just eating bread and plain pasta... I'm eating.  I just have to prepare myself for this sort of thing.  Like the last two days, I've eaten the salad bar at Jason's Deli.  There are so many options on that menu that I just couldn't help but try everything, or at least most things.  It was dreamy.  So dreamy, that I went back the next day with a co-worker and did it all over again.

I think I've come to the conclusion that if I don't have something in mind (or I don't satisfy a craving), I'm usually going to turn my nose up at it and feel ill.  It's not a fun feeling and I'm really trying to work my way through it, but it's not as easy as I once thought...

Doctor update: Nothing to report.  Don't see the doctor again until November 22nd.

Update from "The Bump" & "Baby Center":

Baby Center: How your baby's growing: Your new resident is nearly an inch long — about the size of a grape — and weighs just a fraction of an ounce. She's starting to look more and more human. Her essential body parts are accounted for, though they'll go through plenty of fine-tuning in the coming months. Other changes abound: Your baby's heart finishes dividing into four chambers, and the valves start to form — as do her tiny teeth. The embryonic "tail" is completely gone. Your baby's organs, muscles, and nerves are kicking into gear. The external sex organs are there but won't be distinguishable as male or female for another few weeks. Her eyes are fully formed, but her eyelids are fused shut and won't open until 27 weeks. She has tiny earlobes, and her mouth, nose, and nostrils are more distinct. The placenta is developed enough now to take over most of the critical job of producing hormones. Now that your baby's basic physiology is in place, she's poised for rapid weight gain.

Note: Every baby develops a little differently — even in the womb. Our information is designed to give you a general idea of your baby's development.

How your life's changing: You still may not look pregnant even if your waist is thickening a bit. You probably feel pregnant, though. Not only are morning sickness and other physical symptoms out in full force for most women, but you may feel like an emotional pinball as well.

Mood swings are common now — it's perfectly normal to feel alternately elated and terrified about becoming a parent. Try to cut yourself some slack. Most women find that moodiness flares up at around six to ten weeks, eases up in the second trimester, and then reappears as pregnancy winds to a close.

When to break the news at work "I waited until after the first trimester to tell my boss. By then I wasn't as worried about something happening to the baby and had time to think about a maternity leave plan." — Kristin

Decision Guide: When to tell at work? Some women spill the baby beans at work right away. Others wait as long as they can for fear that their pregnancy will affect how their boss or co-workers view them. Many women wait until they're in their second trimester, when their pregnancy is well established and the risk of miscarriage has declined significantly. What's the best time for you to announce? Here are some factors to consider:

Are you having any complications? If you are, and you have frequent visits to your caregiver or are very preoccupied, you might feel relieved if you told your colleagues early in your pregnancy.

How sick are you? If you're suffering from near-constant nausea or frequent vomiting, you may have to tell your supervisor about your pregnancy earlier than you'd prefer. Before you tell her, figure out what you want: Compassion? Time off? A flexible schedule until you get through the worst of it? Ask for what you need and then assure her that most women feel better by the end of the third month.

Is your job strenuous or potentially dangerous? For your baby's sake and your own, you'll probably want to come clean early on. Making your announcement right away will allow you to talk about changing your job responsibilities in a timely manner.

Will your supervisor and colleagues be supportive? This will depend on your workplace culture, the extent to which your workplace has been affected by other women's pregnancies, and your relationship with your supervisor. If you're confident that your employer will handle the news in a professional manner, announcing your pregnancy early means you can take advantage of any employer-provided services that can help make your pregnancy healthier and less stressful.

Unfortunately, some employers may be less than enlightened about pregnant employees. If you're concerned about your employer's reaction, proceed cautiously, and consider waiting to tell your boss until you're starting to show. You might also want to quietly take aside a colleague who's been pregnant at work and ask her how she was treated.

Finally, be aware of your legal rights. A federal law called the Pregnancy Discrimination Act (PDA) prevents covered employers from firing, demoting, or compensating women differently just because they're pregnant. In addition, many states have similar laws that prohibit discrimination against pregnant women.

What do most women do? Here's when thousands of Baby Center members announced their pregnancies at work:
• 23 percent spilled the beans right away.
• 23 percent waited a few weeks until they absorbed the news themselves.
• 36 percent waited until after their first trimester.
• 14 percent waited until they started to show.

The good news: The vast majority had a positive experience — 83 percent said their boss was supportive when they revealed their baby news.

This Week's Activity:  Start a daily ritual to connect with your baby. Diane Sanford, a clinical psychologist who focuses on pregnancy and postpartum adjustment, encourages women to set aside two five- to ten-minute periods a day to think about their baby. Just after waking up and before going to sleep works well for many expectant moms. During these times, sit quietly and gently rest your hands on your belly. Focus on your breathing and then start thinking about your baby (your hopes and dreams, your intentions as a parent, etc.). It's a great way to initiate the bonding process and to help you plan for the kind of parent you want to be.

What activities should I avoid during pregnancy? Expert Answers, Joanna Stone, gynecologist ...
As your pregnancy progresses, you should avoid any activity that puts you at risk for falling or increases the chance of trauma to your abdomen. And the American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists (ACOG) notes that activities at altitudes over 6,000 feet may carry some risks, as less oxygen is available for you and your baby.

Research is conflicting about whether raising your core body temperature through exercise can harm your baby, but we do know that the following activities can cause problems during pregnancy:

Amusement park rides: Waterslides and other rides at amusement parks are a no-no, since a forceful landing or sudden start or stop could harm your baby.

Bicycling: Cycling isn't a good idea for newbies, but experienced riders may be able to continue until their second trimester, when a shifting center of gravity affects balance and can make cycling dangerous.

Contact sports: Soccer, basketball, and hockey put you at a high risk of injury from a ball or puck, a collision with another player, or a fall during play.

Downhill skiing: ACOG advises against downhill skiing anytime during pregnancy because of the risk of serious injuries and hard falls. If you choose to ski, stick to gentle slopes and be aware that you may have problems with balance as your belly expands. A safer choice is cross-country skiing, which is also much better for building cardiovascular fitness. Avoid skiing at altitudes above 6,000 feet, where there's less oxygen for you and your baby.

Gymnastics: Same risk of falling and increased chance of trauma to your abdomen.

Horseback riding: Even if you're a good rider, it's not worth risking a fall.

Post-sport tubs and saunas: Soaking in hot tubs and Jacuzzis or sitting in a sauna can be dangerous to your developing baby because overheating has been linked to birth defects.

Running: If you weren't a runner before you got pregnant, now's not the time to take it up. Otherwise, it's fine in moderation. From your second trimester on, when the risk of falling increases, you should run with caution. As with all forms of exercise, avoid becoming overheated, and drink plenty of water to replace fluids lost through sweating.

Scuba diving: This is an absolute no. As you surface, air bubbles can form in your bloodstream, which can be very dangerous for both you and your growing baby.

Snowboarding: Same risk of falling and increased chance of trauma to your abdomen.

Surfing: Same risk of falling and increased chance of trauma to your abdomen.

Tennis: A moderately paced game of tennis is okay if you played before you became pregnant. But you may have problems with balance and sudden stops, so watch your step. Most women find that it's hard to keep up their game as their bellies get bigger in the second and third trimesters.

Water skiing: Another activity that puts you at risk for falling and increases the chance of trauma to your abdomen.

Play it smart by sticking to safe pregnancy activities. Even if you were very active before getting pregnant, if you're at risk for preterm labor or intrauterine growth restriction (when the baby fails to grow at a normal rate), you should cut back on your level of physical activity in your second and third trimesters. Your health care provider can help you design a fitness routine that's right for you and your baby-to-be.

The Bump: Your little embryo has now officially graduated to fetus-hood. Adding to the excitement, a Doppler ultrasound device might be able to pick up the beating heart. With basic physical structures in place and increasingly distinct facial features, baby is kind of starting to look like... well... a baby! 

(added by me...) It's also the size of an green olive at this point.

As you squeeze into your jeans and struggle to button your shirt, try enjoying the gain -- after all, when was the last time putting on the pounds was totally guilt-free? It's also probably time for some new lingerie. Your sore, bigger-by-the-minute boobs will feel so much better in a maternity bra.

Note: Granted, I dug around a bit on the Baby Center site to get some of that information... I still feel like The Bump could be a little more wordy!  Come on!

Comments

April said…
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French Hen Farm said…
Hi Jill. I came across your blog via abk and I read the side bar and know exactly what you have been through. I have had 13 miscarriages. I have one beautiful child born naturally and one beautiful child we adopted. I have been through all the poking and prodding and testing and ultrasounds and fertility and so on and so on.
Hang in there. I know how unbelievably hard it is.
I will add you to my prayer list!
Stay positive, stay warm and enjoy the snow!
Linda

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