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those close to me

I was the friend in high school that never went away to college, lived in my parents house while attending a community college and then shortly after that met/married my husband.

Since then, I've stayed in the same general area and still haven't ventured far away from where I grew up.  Over this time, I've seen my close friends come and go.  They'll move back for a bit and then before you know it, they are moving away again.

When we first moved to the town that I live in, it was an adjustment and for a while, we just didn't like living here.  The main reason being, we still had out social life in the next town and spent most of our time driving back and forth for everything.  Our commute into the next town is about 20/25 minutes and although it doesn't seem like a long drive, getting people to come out to our house was a chore.

Over time, my closest friends all moved away.  NS to Pittsburgh then Cincy, LHO to Cincy, RMS to Virginia and now LM to Toledo.  Now, these places aren't that far away from me, but it's not what it used to be.

When I first moved to this town with my husband, we struggled and it took about 4 years before we really felt like we lived in our town and stayed there for more than just the nights while we were sleeping.  For the last 2.5 years, it's been great.  We have several neighbor friends and actually enjoy doing things with them too.  It's been fun learning about new friends and spending time with new people.

But those close friends of mine, still hold a place in my heart.  I spent some time recently resenting some of them for the lack of time they put forth in a friendship and struggled with the idea that "maybe we're just growing a part".  I also realized that even though we might not be the best of friends now, we're going to be friends forever.

While I don't talk to these "close to me" friends daily, I think about them often and miss them daily.

Growing up is hard some days.

I'm fortunate to have a great/growing group of friends that will one day become some of the closest friends that I have and I'm thankful for that.  I can see most of these friendship turning into something more than "just neighbor" friends and into the "close to me" friends.  I just have to remind myself that I'm not replacing friends, I'm just building a support circle of some of the most caring and thoughtful friends.

Thanks for being who you are in my lives.  I wouldn't be who I am or where I am without you.

Comments

Danica said…
Perfectly spoken.
SassyTimes said…
Isn't it sad when you make great friends and then they move away? I totally know how you feel.

I spent a few years making the greatest friends. Friends you just felt comfortable with. Then, they all moved states away. We still see each other a few times a year, but it always reminds me how much I miss them and wish they still lived near me.
Anonymous said…
Let's be honest! If I could live next door to you I would but then my crazy husband and your crazy husband would do something crazy and the police would ask us to move! You have a room at my house whenever you want to use it.
Love, N

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