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From my most recent post, I had written out some questions that I now have answers to.  I met with my OB/Gyn this morning and I think I understand what would be happening next.

Where am I in my cycle?

 We actually don't know right now.  After a m/c the pregnancy hormones stick around for about (or at the max) 2 months and then they start to come down and that's when your brain will remind your body how to ovulate to get the cycles going again.

When will my period show up?

My first cycle following a d&c should arrive, from this point at 2.5 weeks post d&c, 2 week to 6 weeks from this point.  If it doesn't show up at 6 weeks post op, she will have me come back in to induce a period with assistance.

Will I get a period between my d&c and a pregnancy?

She said that she would like for me to get at least 1 period to know that a normal cycle is happening, this also allows for your uterine lining to heal but it is possible that it won't happen. She would really like for me to get 1 cycle in and possibly 2, but didn't say that it was a must.

Is that possible to become pregnant right out of the gate?

I didn't ask this question but she lead to the idea that after my first cycle that I shouldn't have any problems getting pregnant.  She also said that if it got to a point that I wasn't having luck on my own again that she could assist me with using Clomid, however, she can't scan me throughout my cycle to know what's going on.  However, recommend the RE on the west side over ORM, if I wasn't having the results, relationships and communication that I had expected.  I'm not thrilled about the idea of driving 40 minutes to an RE, but we'll talk about that if we need it.  Just have to wait...

Should we be protecting?

She said no.

If we don't, what does that mean for a future pregnancy?

Likely, my next pregnancy will thrive and both my m/c and d&c won't have effects on the upcoming pregnancies.  She said when people reach 2 m/c that's when they start to investigate a bit.  But I'm not a big fan of talking about multiple m/c so, we're just going to skip right over that...

I know my dr. said that it's recommended to have 2 cycles before trying again, but if something happens between now and then that she'd be okay with it, but what does that really mean?

It's just allowing time for my uterine lining to heal.  Because I've had a HCG to check my lining before and there wasn't anything in there that was alarming or stood as a risk for implantation, she didn't have any worries about a pregnancy happening too soon.

How soon would something happen?

From right now, being 2.5 weeks post op, she said that it could be 2 weeks from now or 6 weeks from now that a cycle would show up.  She said that there is no way to track that cycle approaching but if it doesn't arrive in 6 more weeks that we need to move forward with some help to get the cycle to arrive.

Could I be pregnant again right now?

I didn't ask this question however, she did say that if something were to happen before this first cycle, she'd be okay with it.  We'd just have to watch the lining.

I'm taking my prenatal but should I be taking flaxseed oil too, just in case I am pregnant?

I didn't ask this question either, however, I'm going to start taking evening primrose oil, just have those fatty acids in my system.

If we've tried for so long to get pregnant, why should we protect now?

We don't have to protect now.  She said there was no reason to do that and to just keep doing what we're doing.

What's the risk if we don't?

Right after the d&c, if we would've had intercourse too closely to that procedure, apparently you can run a risk of infection.  But now we're in the clear.

Since we've had the d&c, we've not stopped "trying"... Is that bad? Good? Should we stop?

Again, she said to keep doing what we're doing and that we don't have to protect for any reason.

How could I know where I am in my cycle? Would ovulation kits work? Would the Clear Blue Fertility Monitor work?

We could use ovulation kits but it might be a little waste of money because my hormones are probably fairly high.  The CBFM won't do much good right now because we don't know what day in our cycle we are and that thing only goes from the 1 to the last day...

Am I even on a "cycle" now?

We don't know for sure.  We just have a wait.  Hormones are more than likely, still coming down.  So it's just a waiting game.

So after that appointment, even though there's still a bit of the unknown, I feel better.  We just have to wait to see what we get for results in the next few weeks and then we can start again. 

To talk about the comment/answer about clomid; as much as I love the fact that she would be willing to do that to help us, I almost am unwilling to take it because of the beast that it turns me into.  Plus, if Soy Isoflavones do the same and they are natural, then why wouldn't I do that?  We'll see.

On a side note: As I was walking out of the dr.'s office, there was a couple around 18 years old that was celebrating the sex of their child.  She looked so tiny and was barely showing but I could tell that's what was going on.  Nothing like a little slap in the face...  I'm just glad it happened today and not the day that I scheduled my d&c.


Josey said…
Well, it's great to get some answers and peace of mind! Nice that you don't have to stop "trying" either. Hopefully this will happen sooner rather than later!
Leah said…
It's awesome that she was so thorough in her answers and that you were able to ask so many! It has to be a relief . . . kind of.
Alyson said…
I'm so glad you got the answers you needed. Here's hoping your cycle comes soon!!
Sarah (CarolinaGirl) said…
I'm so glad that you were able to get some answers - what a long wait you had. Here's to a quick return of your cycle so you can move forward and get working! :) As always, you're in my T&P

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