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Big Wonders...

Do you ever catch yourself thinking about something and while you'd like to ask your friends or your co-workers, it's probably not the easiest thing to bring up in conversation?  It might be so silly to another person that you just keep it to yourself and when you think about it another time, you think, I've got to just ask someone...

I have these thoughts from time to time and I think that I've come to a point in my blog, that I'm just going to start putting them out there and see how you all respond.


My current wonder...

How did you determine how you were going to discipline your children?

How DO you discipline?


Depending on the age...

Do you use a "time-out" or "think-step"?

Do you take things away?

Is there one person that does most of the disciplining in your family?


I'm sure most of the time, you have to just do a few steps and then your problem is solved.  I'm sure there are other days when you do everything and it's still not getting through.  How do you overcome this?


Do you like to give into your child and let them do whatever they want?

Do you prefer the nature vs. nuture method?


Also, before you had children, did you and your husband say, this is what we think we'd like to do and these are the things that we will never let our kids get away with?  Then when you had kids, were you able to stick to those things?


I'm aware that every situation might be different but over-all or in general, do you do it and how?

Comments

I try not to think about what we'll do when we have kids, don't like to get my hopes up but sometimes I do catch myself wondering...
Quiet Oasis said…
I think pretty much as parents, you have an idea in your head of "I will never do..." and when you have kids, it all goes to pot. Because everything is a learning experience. Every kid is different too. Its all kind of trial and error. When your trial doesn't work, you try something new.

Whenever there are meltdowns or between-kid-arguments, I mostly try to use those moments to explain to them and teach them a "lesson." And that usually squashes the issue and they go on playing and being fine. If the meltdown continues, I give them a choice "Get in the car seat or you won't get to play when you get home" and they make the decision.

That book I talked about on my blog "Easy to Love, difficult to discipline" is a.m.a.z.i.n.g. But its easier to do once they are 3 and up.

When they are younger than 3 though I usually do a time out chair. But actually, I don't really even think timeouts are that effective. It mostly removes them from the situation and they just scream their heads off. Only getting out of the chair makes them stop screaming. Either timeouts or just diverting their attention to another toy, etc, is mostly what I've found works for that age.

My other thing I do is count backwards from 5. By the time I get to 1, they almost always do what I told them to do. I originally got the idea based on the book "1,2,3 Magic". Funny thing is, when the kids want me to do something, they start going, "5,4,3..." Its kind of humorous.

Not sure if that looooong answer really answers your question. But those are my discipline techniques.

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